When you can’t be with each other in person, one of the most noticeable things missing from the relationship is physical touch. No hugging, kissing, or cuddling, not to mention all the other, sexier things that you can’t do through a screen. However, just because you cannot touch each other does not mean that you cannot keep the passion burning in your relationship. Now more than ever, there are ways to bring excitement into your relationship, and none of them have to be plain, old phone sex.
Just one little note: PLEASE, for the love of everything, think before you share anything too racy. Especially if it’s a relatively new relationship for the two of you, take it slow. You want to be sure you can trust each other implicitly first, and anyone who is trustworthy will be considerate enough not to pressure you to take things too fast. Also consider how you send things and whether there’s a reasonable chance that someone else could get ahold of whatever you two are sending each other. Neither of you want to be in a position where you suddenly have to worry about who else might be seeing or hearing something that was meant for your partner only.
Now, on to the list!
Read an erotic story aloud.
We actually used to do this when we were dating in-person, but it works very well for long distance. Search the internet for whatever gets the two of you going. There’s something for everyone out there (I personally like searching literotica.com‘s vast repository of stories since there’s always something no matter what I’m in the mood for). You can even get into character if you want to! Especially if you want to get into the mood but aren’t sure how to start, reading erotica can be an excellent place to start.
Or write a sexy story yourself.
If you are the creative type, you can write your own erotic story and send it to your partner or read it aloud to him/her. Let your imagination run wild. I did this once. Not only did he enjoy reading it, but I enjoyed writing it! It’s a great chance to imagine your fantasy in detail, and it can even help in the future by providing your partner with ideas of what to do the next time you see each other in person.
Record yourself having *fun* and send it to your partner.
Especially if you have very different schedules, it can be difficult to make time to have some adult fun, so why not surprise your SO with a video of yourself that they can watch at their leisure? You can either be really explicit, or, if that makes you uncomfortable, consider just recording your face–the great thing about video is that your partner will still get to enjoy all of your facial expressions and sounds as you pleasure yourself.
Record your voice.
Even without visuals, I personally find that a voice alone can be very sexy. It feels very intimate in a way to have a sexy voice “whispering” dirty nothings in my ear. Tell your partner what you want them to do to you. Let them know how good they make you feel, and let them hear the inflection in your voice change as you get more excited. The good thing here is that without anything to look at, these little details in your voice are all the more noticeable and can be great turn-ons all on their own.
Send sexy pictures.
Okay, so this one is pretty obvious, but there’s so much you can do with it. You can get dressed up or dressed down for your partner. Tease them with a single, tantalizing image. Send a series of pictures in which you wear progressively less clothing and draw out the tension. Show just a little bit at a time or show a lot all at once. Change up the camera angle. It’s totally up to you! Just make sure you have good lighting and go for it!